Guide to Pegging

When it comes to exploring new dimensions of intimacy, communication, and trust in the bedroom, pegging has emerged as an exciting and rewarding experience for many couples. You may have come across the term ‘Pegging’ while watching porn or in conversations with friends and the thought has ignited an internal intrigue that you could possibly unlock a whole new kink.

Well you are here for a reason, our best guess is that you are curious about the idea. Let’s be honest, you are not alone. Societal taboos dictate that such an act should be forbidden. However, your naughty fascination is only natural similar to when you first discovered self love for the first time. 

We have curated this guide to give you an introduction into the world of pegging that you are about to embark upon. Whether you are curious or unsure about where to start, we will walk you through everything you need to know to approach pegging with confidence and enthusiasm. The rest is up to you.

 

What is Pegging?

‘Pegging’ refers to a type of anal play where one partner uses a sex toy to penetrate the other. Generally, this act involves wearing a bondage harness with a fastened dildo in place, usually sold as a strap-on kit. 

Nonetheless, a strap-on kit or harness aren’t always required as harness-free strap-ons are always another great option for you and your partner to explore as this provides both mutual pleasure.

Pegging provides mind-exploding raptures which are specifically tailored to what turns you both on… whether that being double penetration, clitoral stimulation, or deep, resonating vibrations. The world is your oyster.

Pegging is typically practiced by heterosexual couples, it’s by no means exclusive to them, anyone can enjoy this form of sexual play, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. 

Much like any other new sexual activity, pegging requires preparation, patience, and a willingness to communicate frankly with your partner. This is your journey to explore together, and with the right mindset and tools, it can become a deeply intimate and pleasurable experience for you both.

 

Why try Pegging?

The act of pegging can be an incredibly rewarding experience, offering both physical and emotional benefits. The anus is jam packed with nerve endings, making it a source of instance pleasure for many. For men, the prostate - often referred to as the ‘P-Spot’, is located just a few inches inside the anus and can produce powerful sensations when stimulated which can be unrivalled to those used to vaginal sex. 

Beyond the physical sensations, pegging can also foster a sense of vulnerability and trust between partners. For the receiving partner, allowing themselves to be penetrated may require letting go of any preconceptions. For the giving partner it can be empowering and exciting to take on a new role in the relationship. 

 

How to Approach the Topic of Pegging with your Partner?

Before diving in straight into this, it’s essential to talk openly and honestly with your partner about your interest in pegging. Approach the conversation with curiosity and sensitivity, keeping in mind that this might be a new or even intimidating concept for them.

Here are some tips for bringing up the subject:

1. Choose the right moment: Discuss pegging in a relaxed and non-sexual setting where both of you can focus on the conversation without pressure.
2. Use media as an icebreaker: Mentioning an article, podcast, or video you've come across about pegging can make the topic feel less personal and easier to approach.
3. Express your reasons clearly: Share why you're interested in trying pegging, whether it's to explore new sensations, enhance intimacy, or simply to satisfy your curiosity.
4. Invite their perspective: Be prepared to listen to your partner's thoughts and feelings without judgement. This is about creating a sage space for honest dialogue. 

Remember, this is a team effort. Consent and enthusiasm from both parties are non-negotiable. If your partner needs time to process the idea, respect their pace and revisit the conversation when they’re ready.

 

How to Prep for Pegging?

If you’ve made it this then we assume that taking the backdoor adventure is firmly still on your mind. Once you’ve both agreed to give pegging a go, it’s time to prepare. Taking the right steps beforehand can make all the difference in ensuring a comfortable and enjoyable experience.

Choosing the Right Equipment

Investing in high-quality equipment is key to a positive pegging experience. Here’s what you’ll need:

1. Strap-on harness: Look for an adjustable harness that fits securely and comfortably. Many beginner-friendly options include padded straps and are designed for ease of use.
2. Dildo: Start with a smaller dildo to make the experience less intimidating. Opt for body-safe materials like silicone and ensure it's compatible with your harness.
3. Lubricant: Anal play requires plenty of lubrication. Choose a thick, long-lasting, water based lube if using silicone toys. Silicone lube is a fantastic option if silicone toys aren't being utilised to penetrate as it reduces friction and enhance comfort.
4. Optional extras: Consider toys like anal plugs and prostate massagers to help the receiving partner get accustomed to anal stimulation before trying pegging.

 

Our recommendations

Strappers Delight - Adjustable Strap-On Harness	Explore here
Cocked and Loaded - Deluxe Strap On Harness with Posable Dildo	Explore here
Perfectly Pegged - Adjustable Strap On Harness with Dildo	Explore here
Lovense Edge 2 Prostate Massager	Explore here
Skins Fusion Hybrid Silicone & Water Based Lube	Explore here
Skins Superslide Silicone Based Lube	Explore here

 

Sei Mio Top Tip:

Begin your backdoor adventure into strap-on play with the wearer lying on their back. Starting with this position enables the penetrated partner to take complete control of the sensations and depth to begin with. Once the penetrated partner feels comfortable they can really take off and explore the vast amount of fun with a wide range of positions. However, do remember that plenty of water-based lube is a must!

 

Preparation is Everything

Preparing both mentally and physically can ease nerves and set the stage for a successful first experience:

• Relaxation: Encourage your partner to relax their body and mind before play. A warm bath, gentle massage, or deep breathing exercises can help release tension.
• Hygiene: Cleanliness is important for comfort and confidence. The receiving partner might choose to shower and use an anal cleansing tool if they prefer, but this step is optional and entirely personal. 
• Warm up: Begin with external stimulation or smaller toys to help the receiving partner become accustomed to the sensation. Communication throughout this process is essential.

 

Taking the First Steps

When it’s time to try pegging, approach the experience with patience and positivity. There’s no need to rush; take your time and check in with each other regularly.

1. Comfortable positioning: Start with positions that allow the receiving partner to control the depth and speed of penetration, such as spooning or lying on their back. As you both gain confidence, you can experiment with other positions.
2. Go slow: Begin with gentle movements, applying plenty of lube to ensure comfort. Pay attention to your partner’s responses and adjust accordingly.
3. Focus on pleasure: Remember that pegging is a shared experience. Explore other forms of stimulation, such as touching, kissing, or using additional toys, to heighten arousal.
4. Keep communicating: Regularly check in with your partner to ensure they’re comfortable and enjoying themselves. Use verbal and non-verbal cues to guide each other throughout the experience.
   

 

Navigating Challenges

Like any new experience, pegging can come with its own set of challenges. If things don’t go perfectly the first time, don’t be discouraged. Here are some common concerns and how to address them:

• Discomfort: If the receiving partner experiences discomfort, stop immediately and address the issue. Additional lube, a slower pace, or a smaller toy may help.
• Performance anxiety: Both partners may feel nervous about “getting it right.” Remind yourselves that this is a journey, not a test. Laughter and light-heartedness can ease tension.
• Stigma: Societal taboos around pegging can create hesitancy. Focus on your unique connection and remind each other that exploring your desires together is a positive and healthy endeavour.

 

Building Confidence

As you become more comfortable with pegging, you can start to experiment with different positions, techniques, and toys to keep things exciting. Celebrate your progress and be open to discovering what works best for both of you.

• Experiment with positions: Doggy style, cowgirl, or standing positions can add variety once you feel ready to explore.
• Incorporate role play:  For some, pegging can be a fun opportunity to explore themes of dominance and submission. Discuss any fantasies or power dynamics you’d like to try beforehand.
  
• Upgrade your gear: As you gain experience, you might want to explore different harness styles, dildo sizes, or vibrating toys to enhance pleasure.